Wednesday, December 8, 2010

THE SEVEN DEADLY HABITS

I took a seminar recently and wanted to share with you some things I learned that make good sense.
I don't know where this comes from or even who wrote some of these ideas so I can't give some credit to whoever it was. So, anyways here goes.

Habit one: Be proactive
You life doesn't just happen. Whether or not you know it, you carefully design it. The choices we make are
our own. Energy follows thought. You have heard me say this before. So with that in mind, you can choose
happiness, you can choose sadness, decisiveness, ambivalence, success, failure, courage, or fear. Every moment, every situation, provides a new choice, and in doing so, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differently, thus you can produce positive results.

Be proactive about taking responsibility for your life. We can't keep blaming our parents or grandparents for everything that is wrong in our lives. Proactive people recognize that they are response-able. They don't blame genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. They know they choose their behavior. Reactive people people, on the other hand, are often affected by their physical environment. They find external sources to blame for their behavior. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn't, it affects their attitude and performance, and they, of course, blame the weather. All of these external forces act as stimuli that we respond to. Between the stimulus and the response lies our greatest power. We have the power to choose our response. One of the most important things we choose is what we say. Our language is a good indicator of how we see ourselves. A proactive person uses proactive language~I can, I will, I prefer, etc. A reactive person will use reactive language-~I can't, I have to, if only. Reactive people believe they are not responsible for what they say and do-~they have no choice.

Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or no control, proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control. The problems, challenges, and opportunities we face fall into two areas-~Circle of Concern and Circle of influence.

Proactive people focus their efforts on Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about: health, problems at work, children. Reactive folks focus on the Circle of Concern-~things over which they have little or no control over: the national debt, terrorism, the weather. Gaining awareness of the areas in which we expend our energies in is a giant step in becoming proactive.

More to follow....

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