Saturday, August 13, 2011

WITH INTENSE MEMORIES

We all know things are never as they appear.
when you see something you think is the truth, we must always remember that even our eyes can deceive us.
Hearing things is even more prone to misinterpretation and misunderstandings.
Let's face it, we really are only capable of knowing ourselves in every aspect and even then we can mislead ourselves.
You may have a long term relationship in whatever form, be it marriage, living together, having one on the Internet but no matter how long it lasts, do you really know all there is to know about that person.
I think not.
We all like to pride ourselves into thinking we do, but in reality we come into this world alone and we exit it alone.
What we can do in the short time we've been given, is to try to be the best person we can, to share as much of ourselves with those we love or care about. Nobody is going to know all your deepest darkest secrets and they shouldn't.
When a relationship ends, why do we look for reasons to justify the breakup or start thinking this person was not who you thought they were? 
We should concentrate on all the wonderful things we brought into this amazing time that was spent together and relish in the beautiful gift that it was.
In the end, these are the things that last and should be held onto with a happy heart, knowing you shared something extraordinary and beautiful. 
Why relationships can take a different path, you can never know for sure.
You can spend countless hours trying to rationalize and on some levels we need to do this in order to move on.
Trying to think the other person didn't live up to your expectations, or may have not been who you thought they were is not the best approach. 
Remember there are always two sides to every story, and that person may be feeling the same way you do.
Thinking that they moved on too easy is hardly ever the reality of it. I don't think two people who spend a great length of time together and shared so much can really have an easy transition toward moving on.
Speaking to a wide range of others in similar situations, leads to some conclusions that what you feel is not unique although certain aspects only you can feel.
Cherish what there was that was unique and know that it was never wasted time.
To love someone so deeply and not have it last forever hurts with such intensity.
To look at it as what if you had never shared this deeply with another person can be a much more fulfilling way to remember it.
Not everyone gets an opportunity like this in a lifetime. 
I choose to remember how intensely I loved, and that is something I can hold on to forever.
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Saturday, August 6, 2011

TINY TRUTHS

Some say I’m just a flirt these days. I’ve been told that is part of my charm.
I do not know about these things and intention is not towards doing harm
I see where my circumstances have taken me
I cannot deny whatever price I have paid to be free
To some it may appear that I’m just wasting time
While to others it may look more like I’m heading towards a self destructive sign
My heart has been through so much lately that I feel out of control
Desperately clinging on to whatever semblance of familiarity can try to make it whole
One part wants a lover, while the other wants a mate.
Perhaps which path I take may lead to what is needed before it is too late
Some say we lead our way by predestined design
Others by a process of resign
I’m learning to give and take from what each has to give
I try not to ask for too much resolve and to live and let live
Try not to get yourself hurt friends have offered up as advice
Do whatever goodness you can and don’t leave things to their own device
What good can come from playing those who want a piece of you?
Giving in to desire can often lead to a false sense of what was never true
In the end we will be what we’ll be
Ask not for something that you cannot see
Steer away from a path of easy delights
Seek out a harder trail, one that will give your heart what it needs without taking too big a bite


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